Each one of us is alive, that’s a fact, but to what degree? Do we really live in this one reality or do we create our own versions of what is real? We’ve got our own problems; an ungrateful child, an abusive partner, monotony at work or meaninglessness in everyday life. These problems not only occupy our minds all the time, they heavily distort our perceptions. So much so ,that we’re unable to cope with the smallest hitch in our plans and we are completely oblivious to the futility of that one incident/person or thing. In those moments of helplessness, here’s an important question to ask yourself that determines the quality of our lives; are you mindful or is your mind full?
Why is it so important to be mindful?
We carry a mountain of thoughts within ourselves and good ones make us happy and bad ones, depressed. It is important to note that not only the nature of thoughts matter, but also their quantity. Meditation and Yoga aim to not only teach us how to think, but also manage their frequency according to our wishes. A wise man knows that thoughts have no significance unless they’re backed by certainty and willpower. As a result of this, most of our thoughts are actually useless to our well being as they mostly consist of worrying, debating and comparing. In fact, we are incapable of thinking of anything that is not related to ourselves and our minds only cater to our desires, ego and survival. This intense emphasis on the ‘I’ can create immense anxiety when things don’t seem to be going our way. “I” failed my annual exams or “I” have cancer or what will happen if she leaves “me” are all versions of stress we cause by overemphasizing our problems repeatedly. We fail exams, are prone to terminal diseases and eligible to be dumped by our partners, if this is part of life, why are we so scared of it all? Suddenly, hoards of thoughts that empowered our success and pride in the past start to put us down. What do you do when you have no control over your thoughts? Where does this lead? ,Self-hate, self-pity, madness or depression?
Walking around with a large grey clouds over our heads is not only overwhelming, but it’s a self-harming mechanism. Our thoughts can easily turn against us if not disciplined into thinking in a certain way. It’s so subtle that we don’t even know as we turn more bitter, angry, hopeless or helpless with every passing day. In moments of sadness, disappointment, anger or fear, it’s difficult to see clearly and forgive or let go of those emotions. Don’t we all know that fear is useless, sadness can be avoided, disappointments are part of life and anger can be restrained? Then why don’t we remember this in those crucial moments right before we’re about to react and regret it later? This is because simply knowing is not enough, we need to practice this everyday and train ourselves to really react differently. Tell me another way of doing this apart from meditation. If not this, then what? If not now, when?
What is the difference between ‘mindful’ and ‘mind full’?
Having a full mind is like carrying a lit candle in a dark hallway and instead of using it to lead the way, we burn ourselves with it. When we’re brimming over our heads with thoughts, doubts and negativity, there’s no space for breathing or good thoughts to enter. This is why being mindful is so important as it helps us to clear some space in our minds and use the brain to make rational and steady decisions.
Overthinking doesn’t mean we’re being cautious or smart, it simply shows that we’re confused.
If we constantly keep revisiting our decision, it is clearly the wrong one. Mindfulness comes from meditation and control over the mind and its faculties. The master of his thoughts is the master of his life and is exempt from suffering and sorrow. When the mind is full, take a few minutes and clear the head by resting it in meditation. When our mind is healthy again, we are mindful of every decision and no act of ours is without reason or against our will. This is the most optimal way of living, with surety and absolute intent. It’s not only possible, but the most important thing each one of us can do in our lives as it not only extends the quantity of life, but most enhances it’s quality. We’ve all got mindfulness within us, the question to ask now is, is your mind too full to be mindful?